Where to Look for Your Happiness Once You Have Given Up on Online Dating

Dating sites and applications have become an integral part of the lives of many contemporaries. Here people meet, communicate, build relationships, and just have a good time. On the Web, you have probably come across stories of happy acquaintances more than once, which led to the creation of strong and loving married couples. Why do we have several people who abandoned dating applications because of incessant disappointment every year?

Today, we will try to figure out why many people feel frustrated with all the modern dating apps. Who is most at risk of being frustrated with web dating, and what to do about it? We hope you enjoy reading!

Who is most prone to burnout in internet dating?

Let's discard all the manipulative statistics of popular dating apps and get to the real picture. In 2017, Leah LeFebvre, an associate professor of communications studies at the University of Alabama, conducted a survey on 395 Tinder users to find out their real-life experience using the app. It turned out that more than 50% of those surveyed during the year deleted Tinder from their smartphones several times. Out of that number, 40% did so because they were in a relationship. 35% admitted that they “felt like losers.” The second had no replies to messages on Tinder because there were no good matches.

In recent years, the problem of burnout on dating sites and apps has become extremely acute. A lot of people are affected by it:

• those who spend more than 30-40 minutes a day on dating sites;
• those who use 2-4 or more dating services at the same time;
• those who do not fully understand what they want;
• those who overestimate the requirements for a potential partner too much;
• those who have not found a suitable online dating service for themselves.

The problem is that despite burnout, some people continue to use dating apps stubbornly. Many do not believe in success for a long time, however, it has become a familiar daily routine that they simply cannot refuse. This is part of their life.

In the summer of 2022, a case was published on The New York Times website. Abby, who is 28years old, has been using dating apps for eight years. At the same time, she alternates between popular platforms such as OkCupid, Bumble, Tinder, eHarmony, Match, WooPlus, Coffee Meets Bagel, and Hinge. According to Abby, she can spend 2-3 hours a day on dating apps, collecting matches, exchanging messages, and planning dates with men who seem interesting and promising to her at first.

However, Abby admits that in these eight years, she has not had a single successful coincidence or a single promising meeting. Abby flips through profiles daily, has short conversations, and has stopped believing in success for so long. To her and others alike, it would seem, “why should I spend my life on dating applications?” Abby claims that she feels obligated to keep searching because if she deletes all the applications, the opportunity of finding a soul mate might be lost.

If you think that Abby's case is just an exception to the rule, then we dare to disappoint you. Currently, millions of people around the world are in the same situation. Not everyone is willing to admit it and talk about their failed experience. This is bad because we are talking about a serious problem that needs to be addressed!

What you need to do if you are completely frustrated with dating apps

We observed a pattern: the longer a person uses dating services, the more they burn out and become disappointed in web dating generally. If it is not so noticeable at first, over time, it will become obvious. A person becomes apathetic and withdrawn, spends lesser time in the company of friends and relatives, categorically rejects any talk about their personal life, and can even fall into a protracted depression, which sometimes cannot be overcome without the help of a good psychologist.

You mustn't make the situation critical. If you feel like you're starting to burn out and get frustrated with online dating, follow our recommendations:

• Do not forget about real life outside the Internet. Try to limit your time on the Web, do not use dating sites and applications for more than 30-40 minutes a day. Give yourself a “day off” from online dating. Spend more time with friends and loved ones.
• Limit the number of dating apps you use. One or two services will be more than enough. After all, the same people can be found on most sites. Why waste your time and energy on 3-4 or more dating services at the same time?
• Try alternative dating formats such as social networks, thematic forums, and anonymous video chats (Omegle). Also, don't forget about interesting Omegle alternatives: Omegle TV online, Bazoocam, Chathub, OmeTV, and others. Each alternative to Omegle offers users unique functionality and an interesting format for tête-à-tête video communication. Be sure to discover video chats!
• Don't be a “passive player.” The problem for many users of dating services is the unwillingness to take the first step. Millions of people are just waiting for the second half to be found on its own. Trust us, it doesn't work that way. There is practically no chance of success in this case. You must be active and purposeful. Passive waiting is a direct path to burnout and depression.
• Be yourself and don't try to play a role in a dating service. There are quite a few people who create a non-existent image in the dating app, which is completely inconsistent in real life. Thus, they only reduce the chances of a successful acquaintance and promising relationships. Believe us, starting a conversation with a lie is not the best idea.

At this point, you may have a logical question: “Should I delete all dating applications and completely abandon the idea of ​​finding love on the Internet?” Not really. It is important to understand that a dating app is just a tool. It can be more or less convenient and functional, but in the end, the result depends on how effectively you use this tool. Therefore, we do not recommend completely abandoning online dating. Try to take a short break and switch to something else as this is possible and necessary. Instead of Tinder or Bumble, some alternatives to Omegle are quite suitable such as Omegle TV or Chathub.

You will earn some rest by changing the format of online dating temporally. Additionally, you will have time to rethink your approach and evaluate your profile in the dating service more objectively making it more attractive and informative for a potential partner. A break from online dating in its classic form is useful!

Life goes on!

If you have read up to this point, we believe that you feel burnt out due to the lack of results when using dating services. Don't worry, it's normal. You are not alone in this problem. Other readers will surely confirm this.

What to do right now?

Firstly, take a look at how many dating apps you installed on your smartphone. If there are more than two, feel free to delete those that you consider the least effective in your case. Secondly, review your profiles on the available dating apps. Do they contain enough information about you? Is it up to date? How long has it been since you updated your photos? You can ask someone close to objectively evaluate your account and point out the discouraging things they find about your profile. You don’t need to be shy about it because it only shows you are brave.

If you are so burnt out that you can no longer enter dating applications physically, you need to stop using them for a while. A few days is enough for some individuals to return to online dating with renewed vigor. However, other people need a week at least, while some could leave for a month or more just to carry out a “dating detox,” before returning to the real world.

Nonetheless, we do not recommend abandoning online dating once and for all. Sooner or later, you might want to come back. Thus, “burning all bridges” is not worth it. Whether you like it or not, online dating is the future. It is impossible to deny this in the 21st century.

The World’s Biggest Happiness Blockchain YourOneLife (YOL) To Be Created By 5ire and AICTE

The happiness blockchain, named YourOneLife (YOL), aims to create a sustainable model of happiness in the world

Founded by Yogesh Kochhar and Anoop Bansal in association with 5ire, a 5th generation blockchain network established by Pratik Gauri, Prateek Dwivedi and Vilma Mattila

5ire, the 5th generation blockchain network, announced today that it has collaborated with AICTE, India's technical and higher education regulator, to create the world's biggest happiness blockchain named, Happiness Blockchain by building the YourOneLife (YOL) app on 5irechain.

By incorporating sustainability into India's technical and higher education regulation through YourOneLife (YOL), AICTE has engaged a central tenet of the for-benefits economy and its mission to accelerate the United Nations 2030 Agenda for Sustainable Development. The model for YOL essentially has three key features: 

• Assessing the Happiness Index of an individual and an institution
• Assessing the mindshare of an individual or an institution
• Setting the mind map of an individual or an institution.

A brainchild of Yogesh Kochhar and Anoop Bansal, associated with the AICTE, YOL was initially created as an app. Through the association with 5ire, the potential of the happiness model was expanded into a blockchain, for designing and developing a sustainable model of happiness in the world. YOL is expected to:

• Be available on 5ire’s level 1 blockchain, 5ireChain, and will be utilized for all academic activities by students under the auspices of AICTE
• Record, issue, and verify the academic credentials for the aforementioned 8 million+ students via 5ireChain, making it the largest blockchain-based academic accreditation system globally.
• Allow 5ire to train a large number of students under AICTE guidance by providing a well-designed curriculum and courses in 5th generation blockchain technology.

"The launch of YOL is an exciting milestone in our lives and actually makes both of us quite happy," Kochhar and Bansal said gleefully at the occasion of the announcement, "meaning our preceding concussion about the app was correct!"

Speaking on the occasion and welcoming the relationship between YOL and 5ire, the Chairman of AICTE, Prof Anil D. Sahasrabudhe said -

This not only provides an elevated learning opportunity for over 7 million students in India that AICTE governs, it gives each of these students an opportunity to mine and earn happiness NFTs on the YOL platform powered by 5ire. Blockchain is the need of the hour and I was happy to have it as an inclusion for all students.

The project has already received wide acclaim from Prof Phoebe Koundouri, Co-Chair, Europe, and Greece, UN SDSN, who spoke on occasion and complemented this unique platform.

"Our mission at 5ire ecosystem is to support projects that address the multiple facets of sustainability and embed the for-benefit paradigm at the heart of blockchain. YOL is definitely in that group and we are thrilled to have partnered with AICTE.", Pratik Gauri, the CEO, and co-founder of 5IRE, said at the announcement, "Both Yogesh and Anoop are insightful technologists that have studied the deep connection between happiness and sustainability, and we wholeheartedly agree with their findings, and are excited about YOL and the impact it will generate. "

"5ireChain is committed to focusing on human-centered design and sustainable development, and partnering with AICTE enabled us to exhibit our commitment to that goal.", said Prateek Dwivedi, Co-founder and CMO at 5ire.

"This is a big win both for Indian high-tech education and AICTE. Sustainability and blockchain are both critical for the future and we’re getting it as a package" added Mr. Raj Kapoor, the founder of India Blockchain Alliance, who was at hand as the Strategy Lead - India, 5ire.

AICTE is the technical and higher education regulator in India that governs over 10,000 higher education and technical colleges and universities in India impacting over 7 million students.

5ire is focused on implementing the United Nations 2030 Agenda for Sustainable Development. So much so that 5ire has produced 5ireChain, an innovative blockchain technology with the UN SDGs written into its core. Non-financial factors such as environmental, social, and governance scores are weighted in the 5ireChain ranking protocol, impacting a party's participation in the 5ire network.

About 5ire

5ire is a blockchain ecosystem that brings forward Sustainability, Technology & Innovation to build the 5th industrial revolution (5IR). Founded by Pratik Gauri, Prateek Dwivedi and Vilma Mattila, proponents of blockchain technology in August 2021, the mission of the 5ire ecosystem is to embed the for-benefit paradigm at the heart of blockchain, highly incentivize practices that align with the United Nations Sustainable Development Goals (SDGs), facilitate the transition from the 4IR to 5IR and accelerate the implementation of the UN 2030 Agenda for Sustainable Development. The company’s primary offering is 5ireChain, a first layer, sustainability-driven 5th generation blockchain that ensures adherence to the philosophy of 5IR creating a net positive impact on the planet and service humanity.

India Cities Happiness Report 2020: City Happiness Rankings, Impact of COVID-19 and Thought Leaders’ Insights

First India Cities Happiness Report covering thirty-four major cities measuring happiness across the country, the contributing factors to people’s happiness, the impact of COVID-19 on happiness, and insights from global thought leaders.

The study is based on a nationwide survey covering 13,000 people during October- November 2020 by Professor Rajesh K Pillania. He is recognised for his extensive research, jointly ranked number one in average research productivity among management faculty (including IIMs & IITs) in India between 1968 to 2014.

John F. Helliwell, Co-Editor (with Jeffry Sachs and Richard Layard) of the World Happiness Report, Professor Emeritus, Vancouver School of Economics, University of British Columbia emphasises that Rajesh Pillania and his team did a signal service in extending the scope of world happiness research by providing data for 36 Indian states in India Happiness Report 2020. The India Cities Happiness Report 2020 further deepens understanding by monitoring the quality of life in 34 major cities.

In the happiness rankings of cities, Ludhiana, Ahmedabad and Chandigarh are the top three. Among the Tier-I cities, Ahmedabad, Hyderabad and New Delhi are among the top three whereas, among Tier-II cities, Ludhiana, Chandigarh and Surat are the top three cities in happiness rankings. The results show age group, education, and income level are overall positively related to happiness and marital status is negatively related to happiness, i.e. unmarried people are happier than married people in big cities.

Jaime Lerner, World-renowned Architect & Urban Planner, Former President of the International Union of Architects and, Chairman, Jaime Lerner Arquitetos Associados, and Among 25 Most Influential Thinkers in the World (Time magazine, 2010), stresses on Remembering Togetherness for happiness in cities and emphasises that quality public spaces are the glue that can hold together sharing, trust, connectedness, a sense of civic duty, responsibility and pride because public spaces are the theatres where urban life happens.

The spirit of India is quite resilient, and the impact of COVID-19 varies across cities. It varies from the worst possible to the best possible among individuals in the study. Bengaluru, Kochi and Kolkata have shown the worst possible impact of COVID-19 on happiness.

Francesc Miralles, Co-author of Bestselling book Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life pinpoints people often believe that happiness is the absence of problems, and that's a big mistake.

The report contains insights from various thought leaders on happiness including Ruut Veenhoven, Pioneer and World Authority on the Scientific Study of Happiness, Emeritus Professor of Social Conditions for Human Happiness, Erasmus University Rotterdam in the Netherlands (EHERO), and, Director, World Database of Happiness; John F. Helliwell, Co-Editor (with Jeffry Sachs and Richard Layard) of the World Happiness Report, Professor Emeritus, Vancouver School of Economics, University of British Columbia, and Distinguished Fellow, Canadian Institute of Advanced Research; Jaime Lerner, World-renowned Architect and Urban Planner, Former President of the International Union of Architects, Chairman, Jaime Lerner Arquitetos Associados and, Among 25 most Influential Thinkers in the World (Time magazine, 2010); Carlo Ratti, Director, MIT Senseable City Lab, Founding Partner, Carlo Ratti Associati and, Co-chair of the World Economic Forum’s Global Future Council on Cities and Urbanization; Richard Florida, one of the World’s Leading Urbanists, University Professor at University of Toronto’s School of Cities and Rotman School of Management, A Distinguished Fellow at NYU’s Schack School of Real Estate, and, Founder of the Creative Class Group; Padma Bhushan M. B. Athreya, Recognised as one of the Founders and Pioneers of the Indian Management Movement, and Ex-Professor London Business School, and Ex-Professor IIM- Calcutta; and, Francesc Miralles, Co-author of Bestselling book Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life.

People are optimistic about the future and generally scored more on happiness after five years compared to scores today. In the future happiness rankings after five years, Ludhiana, Jammu and Amritsar are the top three.

Carlo Ratti, Director, MIT Senseable City Lab and Co-chair of the World Economic Forum’s Global Future Council on Cities and Urbanization highlights that the key issue cities are facing is the relationship between the natural and the artificial worlds resulting in more happiness; and, don’t focus just on new technologies but use them to build cities for lovers and friends.

The three key takeaways for governments, organisations, and individuals are first different cities are at different levels of happiness rankings. There is a pressing need for more discussion, focus, and the application of happiness in the Indian context. Second, knowing is not enough, happiness needs to be practised. Third, choose and put into practice all or some or at least one of the insights from this report.

Professor Pillania has been researching, writing, teaching and training students and senior management people on happiness for the last five years. He has taught and trained 1000s of students and senior management people on strategy, innovation and happiness over the last 20 years. His recent books are Amazon Bestseller, ‘Happiness Strategy: Strategy and Happiness for Everyone’ and, ‘Happiness Diary: My Experiments with Happiness’.

The full report is available for free at www.pillania.org

Author of India Cities Happiness Report 2020
Professor Rajesh K Pillania,
Professor of Strategy, Management Development Institute, Gurgaon, INDIA.
Email:rajesh@pillania.org         
Phone:91-9818961019   
    
Dr. Rajesh K. Pillania is rated and awarded the Top Professor for Strategy in India by ASSOCHAM and Education Post. He is recognised for his extensive research, jointly ranked number one in average research productivity among management faculty (including IIMs & IITs) in India between 1968 to 2014. His research and/or academic experience include the Indian Institute of Management, Kozhikode; Smith School of Business, University of Maryland; Harvard University; and Management Development Institute (MDI), Gurgaon, India among others.